People r generally classifiable into 2 groups.They r either able to radiate your goodness and virtues,that allows u to be all you can be,or they act as Drain pipes,feeding on your strengths and positivism,never adding to you,always taking,always siphoning,leavin you weak and depleted.The radiator effect s one that makes you feel like a giant,able to achieve anything and to soar from any height.There r no limits when you meet a radiator and you know that with this person,you can achieve the impossible.The best kind of mate to find is the one that encourages you to fly,to lift yourself above the level you currently stand on and dream the impossible dream.At all times,you feel the warmth of the radiator,and on dark cold nights,when you feel alone and are faced with the limits,you can turn and seek warmth in this person,reassured that a wall of support will always be there for you.The drain is completely different,as this one builds his or her aspirations around you.Whereas,the radiator remains supportive as he or she continues with her own life,the drain will let you know that without you,his or her life has little meaning.In a world that s already hard enough as it is,you are forced to carry the hang-ups of another upon your shoulders and gradually,without knowing it,lose the very things that give you your vitality.The drain appeals to pity,beclouds you with misery and subtly ensures that the things that are important to you no longer take centre stage.A relationship with a drain is against natural law and a perversion of how relationships ought to be.
If we pause and reflect,we will see that we can cast all of the people we know,into one or the other of these two groups.The professional adult drain on the other hand often seeks a target that appears to be a natural radiator; only in matches like this,the drain has a vampire effect,seeking to feed off the essence of the radiator without adding substance.How can you tell the drain apart from others-HE OR SHE blames everyone else for his or her woes,never accepting responsibility or seeking to forge ahead. According to the drain,there s a person responsible for whatever situation he or she is in,and the drain's cup s never half full.The drain makes your life his or hers,refusing to "get a life". When you are the only thing that gives another's life meaning,you are in trouble whether you realise it or not.Drains ve been known to get nasty when the person being fed off,realizes what is happening and attempts to get out of the situation.the drain will often attempt to destroy what he or she cannot have.When the radiator looks through the bars that hedge him or her in,all that can be seen are the stars.the drain sees only the mud,all the time.Usually the effect of the drain s a long term one,which gradually weakens the person acting as a host till there s no strength left. The good news s the drain will not leave you when there is nothing left to feed off. Misery seeks companions and he or she will gladly stay by you as you both wallow in despondency.When you realise you are dining with a drain,seek to make this person know d disadvantages of being in a situation where only one person benefits (isn't that the essence of draining). If the drain will not change,you must find the fastest escape route.You have only one life to live,and if you let this be manipulated by another,you miss the very point of your existence.
